When Talking Isn't Talking

"Oh ya I know him; we used to talk."
"You talked to him? For how long?"
"Geez, I don't know...everyday in French for a year."
"Just in French? You didn't talk outside of school?"
"Well he sat next to me so...and I mean I saw him once or twice and said hi.."
"Wait you mean you actually talked to him..not.. you know...talked."
Suggestion is a powerful tool, and a confusingly abused one. People have become so casual in their relations that they've resorted to casual expressions of these relations; taking once safely ordinary phrases and distorting them to have much more scandalous implications. People don't date anymore: they kick it or talk. People don't have crushes anymore: they have baes. But then there's the confusion of if bae is actually bae, as in you are in a mutual relationship, or they are bae in the sense that they are in fact your crush. So then why people must use such confusing and complicated terms is beyond my comprehension, as they take established ideas and put blurred labels on them.
Such as with the whole 'talking to' business. I would imagine it stemmed from the commonly coined phrase 'seeing someone,' perhaps appealing to a blind man who didn't find the previous phrase appropriate; nevertheless it's so elusively vague. What exactly does 'talking to them' entail? Are there legitimate conversations being had or is it romantic involvement, and if so is it a developing flirtation on your part or mutual exchange?  People have a knack for over-complicating matters; It must be the masochist in us that enjoys the manipulative abilities these phrases allow others. If you're talking to him, that must not be the same as a committed relationship, or else it would have been labeled as such, and because it's so ordinarily talking he possesses the right to talk with other females as well, of course.
He may call you bae, but he never asked you to be his girlfriend, and so doesn't need to meet your parents. It's not like you're committing it, you're only kicking it.
These terms have become popular language, so egregiously present in their hazy entitlements that they eclipse the more structured and up-front lingo of the past. This new slang reflects the time-change. People aren't so conservatively cautious anymore. They're spontaneous, kicking it and talking to everyone. I can't remember the last time I heard of someone going on a date.
A real date.
Where the boy is stuttering as he asks you to dinner, his hands shaking while he opens the door for you; the tremble present as your father grips his hand a little too harshly before allowing him to lead you to his mom's car; and not to the back seat either. The passenger side that is opened for you, because he's a gentleman; and then he takes you to the movie, and doesn't try anything because you're in public, and it's a first date and that requires some measure of restraint and fragility. And then he's dropping you off at your house, asking to do it again sometime, and so you go on a second date. And a third. A fourth. Then by the seventh date he asks if you want to be his girlfriend; and it's official. You're in a relationship. No questioning what he means by calling you 'bae' and asking to 'hang;' it's upfront and endearing; an innocence not exercised in the world of today.
With books like Fifty Shades of Grey and people swinging naked on wrecking balls, conservation is not a practiced notion. People in general have become so casual, that everything is vague and finicky; there's no respect for structure and procession; there's a loss of sanctity and innocent intention. This is reflected in the language. People 'kick it' because they don't commit to it. They don't do relationships anymore, at least not in the traditional sense. There's no careful progression of dates to dating to exclusivity; there's all of this insta-love to go with the instagram. Really it's insta-infatuation, and as quickly as the outdated iPhone is dropped, so is the "relationship" for the newest 'bae.' Really it should be 'baeuseca' because in this age it's really you are 'before anyone else until someone else comes along." There's a loss of commitment and patience in contemporary times. People use wifi to get faster internet and don't value the truth that anything worth having takes time. It's all about the new and it's all as superficial as the shallow titles given to these processions. 'Talking to,' sounds a lot better than 'I made out with them a few times but we aren't committed to each other and so I can't say dating or his side-hoes might try to fight me.'
People have lost their sense of peace; they are now instilled with complication and urgency and this new slang portrays this shallow rapidity.
When I say I'm talking to someone, I literally mean conversing with them; When I say I'm kicking it, I mean my foot is connecting forcefully with it; and the only bae I want to hear about is the one preceded by a color that sponsors a a great quarterback and has cheese heads for fans. (Packers still suck though)